Brushing away the sexual cobwebs in a long term relationship can feel daunting and exhausting. Do you dread going through the old tired routine-you kiss, touch a few parts and go for the gold-every time? Have you grown tired having to always make the moves on your partner or the moves that your partner makes leave you feeling cold? Making a change in your sex life is hard and takes work. Let’s look at a few things to shake things up this summer and get more of the good stuff!
Have sex outside of your bedroom. If the bedroom is the source of all things routine, go for it in your living room, office, a sturdy kitchen table or even a quickie in the garage. Also, for some couples, getting a room in a hotel for a night in your city can often get the blood flowing. Just get out of that bed and experience your partner in a new way.
Check out some porn together. Look for reputable sites that offer the kind of sex that turns you both on. Or take one for the team and watch a porno that excites your partner and get off on watching them get off.
Sext. Yeah, I said it! Send your partner a dirty message that describes what you’d like to do to them or what you’d like them to do to you. Maybe take a quick snapshot of their favorite body part while in the bathroom at work.
Shop for sex toys together. Check out your nearest sex shop or get online. Get a new vibrator, dildo or anal beads to play with. You deserve some new toys! In Chicago, I highly recommend Early to Bed. They are super friendly, respectful and knowledgeable about all things sex.
Turn on the music. What songs get you excited? A little Marvin Gaye or Roxy Music? Maybe some Nine Inch Nails-Closer? A sex soundtrack on Spotify?! Have fun folks!